A Sad Week

The sun was shining. There was a soft breeze blowing and the leaves were rustling lightly in the trees. I could smell freshly mown grass and I felt it tickle my sandaled feet as we walked through the cemetery to the grave site. You could hear the loud screech of the cicadas as they serenaded us with a cheery tune that was a bit uncharacteristic for the day. My brother in law, Mitch, my husband’s only sibling passed away on Monday.

My brother in law Mitch was only 56 years old. He has had a lot of medical issues through the years, as well as addiction problems. We got the call from his wife at 3:00 AM Monday morning. We knew it was probably coming but wasn’t expecting it so soon. He was such a fun loving person who never met a stranger and truly believed in living life to the fullest. You couldn’t be around him without having a good time. Respectful, loving, caring, smiling, these were some of the words used to describe him at his funeral. What a great way to be remembered.

My husband was 3 years old his brother Mitch was just a few months old and their mom.

We spent the week making arrangements and reliving some old memories. We had to break the news to my mother in law who is in an assisted living center. Her short term memory is so bad that some days when we visit her she remembers that he has passed and some days she doesn’t. It’s almost like having to relive it each time we visit. On the days she doesn’t remember we keep quiet and don’t say anything about him.

It is so hard losing a loved one. Losing a sibling is different than losing a parent which I am sure is different than losing a spouse or God forbid, a child. I have heard that each loss is different. I only know of a couple of different ones, siblings, parents, thank God that is all

I have been a little quiet this week. Just being here for my husband and mother in law and sister in law is all I can do. Just being, that’s really all any of us can do at a time like this.

Always remember

Love your day your way!!!!

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Hello everyone, my name is Lisa I am a southern girl born and raised in East Tennessee. I love discovering new places and things to do. I have a lot of favorites, shopping, traveling, knitting and photography are all at the top of my list. I am married with my fur babies my only children. This blog is actually named after my beloved basset hound Patches. She passed away a few years ago but will always have a huge part of my heart. Come with me and we will explore some wonderful places and discover some really fun things. Are you ready?

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  3. I’m so sorry, Lisa- Mark and Mitch were two of my best friends in childhood along with being cousins. Please know I am praying for you all.

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  6. You have my deepest condolences, Lisa. I lost both of my sisters (and two cousins) last year so my heart goes out to you and your family. It’s tough, it really is. Every death is different. I don’t think it’s so much whether it’s a sibling or parent or spouse or child as much as it’s the relationship you had with them. I was close to one sister, but not the other and while I grieve for both of them, the grief I feel is different for each of them. You are doing the best thing, being there for your husband and family. Comfort each other and you’ll have comfort too. Sending you a lot of virtual hugs and real prayers.

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