February You May Be The Cruelest Month

T.S. Eliot proclaims April to be the cruelest month but I may have to differ with him. Our reasons for the cruelest month are different.  His has to do with blooming flowers in April.  Mine because of, well, events. I have lost several loved ones during the month of February. My mother died on Valentines Day in 2003. My brother died last year on February 13th. I wrote a post about it here.  It is cold and wet and dreary.  I don’t mean to sound ungrateful. There have also been some wonderful things happen in February. I’ll tell you about those in a minute. But I guess losing two people who meant the world to me makes those two days of the month especially sad.

February 2019 has also been a month of sickness for our family. Mark and I both had the crud. No sooner was I getting over that but then I pulled a muscle in my back. I spent most of last weekend lying flat on the floor on my back with my legs in a chair. Try not to get a mental picture, it’s not pretty.  Scruffy laid beside me the whole time. Because of the back issues I missed a Memorial Service of the mother of a good  friend.

We have had rain, rain and more rain. Rain almost every day. The ground is saturated and flood warnings are issued almost every day. Our local schools closed yesterday and today because of heavy rains and the threat of flash flooding.

So a lot of things in February to be glum about. My back is better and that is good. I can stand up straight again without having back spasms. I did a lot of knitting and reading over the weekend.

We had a brief moment of sunshine Wednesday morning.


But we knew the rain was coming again.

Anyway now some really good things about February:

1. It is almost over and spring is on the way!!!!

2.  Valentine roses from my hubby


3. A group of us taking a co-worker out for lunch and mani-pedis for her pre-wedding gift.


We also did the Escape Room in Knoxville. Have you done one of these?  It is so much fun. You are put in a room for one hour. You are given a topic and you try to find clues that will help you get out of the room in one hour. We did not escape. It is really hard!!! But we had so much fun.  https://breakoutgames.com/knoxville/  check it out!!!!

Happy Birthday to my blog it turned one year old this month.  It’s hard to believe I have been blogging for one year but I have!!! I have so enjoyed sharing with all of you.  Thank you for following me and sharing with me.


The last thing is:  Baby Kay Day!!!  this is coming up on February 24th.  this is the day I donated a kidney to my husband. This happened in 2011.  One of the best days of my life.  We named the kidney Baby Kay and we try to celebrate every year.


I post this picture every year on Baby Kay Day  this is a picture of me and my husband leaving Vanderbilt Medical Center after the kidney transplant in 2011.  It is one of my favorite pictures.  You can read more about it here and here.

So maybe February isn’t so bad.  I am going to Orlando FL on Monday for a meeting and I plan to get some sunshine and sunshine and sunshine.   I will keep you posted.

Love your day your way








The Art Of Saying “Thank You”

“Have a good one” This is probably what you hear, quite often, when leaving a retail shop or really any shop. I noticed it about a year ago.  Instead of saying “ Thank you” for a purchase or act, people now say “have a good one” or often times in the south, where I am from, you may hear “have a good un”

I know this is probably just the personal rant of an old school southern woman but it bothers me that saying “thank you” and “you’re welcome” or “have a nice day” seems to have been taken out of the everyday language.  If you will notice even if you say thank you to a cashier, when it’s actually them that should be thanking you for the purchase, they will often say “no problem”. And sometimes add “have a good one”  Saying “have a good one” seems to have taken the place of, “thank you and “have a good day”

I always wonder. Have a good what?  A good day is, I am assuming, what the person means but it could be anything. Have a good meal, a good trip, a good tour, a good time, a good whatever.  So I guess in reality it could be anything.  But why not just say it.  It makes it so much more personal.

I Work at a place where there are several shops and ticketing and I am constantly telling our team members to use an appropriate closing after a transaction has taken place.  It is actually part of the criteria on our mystery shopper reports. “Thank you” is so easy to say. I still feel that saying it makes people feel valued.

I think a lot of people actually have grown up not hearing this and it is just something they don’t think twice about.  Is it sort of falling by the wayside like cursive hand writing?

Hospitality. We are big on that in the south so why am I surprised  when I do  get a thank you from a cashier at Walmart,  or wherever I have dropped a good amount of money for groceries.  Shouldn’t it be the norm? And it’s not just Walmart or the other big box stores it’s everywhere.

Oh well as I said just the rant of an old fashioned, old school,  dang I guess just an old  southern woman. Thank you for reading and Have a good day!!!

I will leave you with a couple of pictures of my fur babies.


Love your day your way!!


October I Love You


October is my favorite month for many different reasons. Fall is here, even though temps are still near 90 degrees here in East Tennessee, leaves are starting to change, and there is just a crispness to the air that I love.

I got in really late last Friday night from Colorado. I had the dreaded middle row seat for the longest flight which made my flight seem twice as long.  The man on my left pulled out a nasty smelling sandwich and started chowing down as soon as we took off. My stomach had been slightly queasy all week because of the altitude change so you can imagine that did not help. The man on my right was dipping skoal tobacco and spitting it into a bottle. YUCK. He was trying to be discreet about it but when you are sitting that close it’s hard to be. I put my earbuds in and adjusted my neck pillow and watched a movie and slept.

I had a great time in Colorado and did a lot of fun things.  The scenery was beautiful, and I had so many ideas in my head from our conference speakers I couldn’t wait to get back to work to share them with everyone.   We had some amazing speakers but Jon Schallert with Destination Businesses was my favorite.

Check out his site JonSchallert/destinationbootcamp.com


We spent an entire day at Bair Ranch with horseback riding, 4 wheeling and Jeep riding.  Also lots of time afterward in the lodge drinking wine.

We visited Glenwood Caverns Adventure Park. We had to ride to the top of the mountain in these.  A little nerve wracking.

The Caverns at Glenwood Springs was beautiful.  Lots of cave coral.

I also got to spend some time in Aspen, which I loved,

Redstone, a small but beautiful area

And then a quick trip to Vail and an awesome restaurant there called Pepi’s.

A wonderful time but I was really glad to get back to my family.  A whirlwind work week followed, trying to catch up and get ready for my vacation to Maine.  Mark and I had planned a beach vacation to Wrightsville Beach near Wilmington. We go there almost every year. But hurricane Flo stopped those plans. We started thinking of somewhere else to go and I have never been to Maine so that is where we are going. I can’t wait. We’re leaving Sunday.  My sister is coming to stay at my house and take care of fur babies.  My other sister is going to be checking on mother in law.  I don’t know what I would do without my sisters.  A lot of planning and preparing went into this trip haha.

Have a wonderful weekend


Colorado sunset

Love your day your way!!


Busy Weekend. Lazy Weekend.


Well it’s Sunday night. Wow where did the weekend go?  Half of my weekend was busy.  I started at 9:00 AM on Saturday morning and started trimming this terribly overgrown bush in my backyard.  I have been avoiding it. Some of the stems from the bush were taller than me. I had to break out the ladder. Getting the ladder situated in my shrubs is no longer easy since adding all the stones.  I finally had to move a portion of the stones to get the ladder put in place.  I would show you the before pics of the bush but I am too embarrassed. I will show you some of the clippings.

I then deided while I had the stones moved I would put the new cover on my drier exhaust. My husband has been promising to put it on for months and I am tired of seeing the huge gaping hole that any critter or worse,  a spider,  could crawl into.  I had to go to my father in law’s house to get the extension ladder for this one.  I would like to tell you that I whipped that thing on there in no time. Not.  I ran into a few problems and it took a good portion of the day with several thousand trips up and down that ladder.  I may be exaggerating just a little about that. When I finally got it all put together I ran into town to get groceries praying I wouldn’t see anyone that I knew.  I have this incognito look where I wear my hair in a ponytail in a ball cap and glasses.  It usually works. I only saw a couple of people I knew.

look at all the flowers losing their summer glory waiting for fall

Ahhh Sunday a very relaxing day after getting my husband off to a conference. He will be there for four days. I felt like Tom Cruise in Risky Business sliding across the floor.


You can tell it’s not me traveling this time look at this little suitcase my husband is taking for a four day trip, what????


So the rest of the day was spent napping, reading, knitting, and hanging out with my fur babies.   A good Sunday.

A busy week coming up. I am headed to Colorado on Saturday for a Cave Convention, yes there really is such a thing, so a lot to do this week to get ready to be gone for a week.

Love your day your way